You're sitting in a meeting and the guy next you is getting torn apart by the department head. His project strategy is being ripped to shreds, every weakness exposed. You feel a little bad for the guy, sure, but mostly, you're grateful.
You're grateful everyone at the table cares enough to bring their work in and hold it up to intense scrutiny. That your co-workers are about doing amazing work, not ego.
You're grateful that when the same project comes up the next week - stronger and better- that the guy sitting next you gets congratulated for turning it around.
Real honesty isn't always pleasant. But nothing means anything without it.